|Posted by Rick Duskiewicz - New York, NY - USA - on May 12, 2000 at 19:51:25:|
|A woman I knew taught me my mechanical ways. I
can figure out how to take something apart, and even more remarkably, put
it back together.
Because of her, I have some artistic talent. (I know a few of you will disagree.) She taught me colors, shading and when not to let two straight lines meet in certain ways.
In the many years I have known her, she taught me right from wrong. When to fight, and when it was necessary to remain silent.
She encouraged me to go for my locksmith license until I finally decided to apply for it. Loaned me money when I really needed it. When I got older, she gave me advice only when I asked for it.
She was a strong and independent lady, proven to me when she got divorced 25 years ago and had to start up new with three of her younger kids. She went back to her maiden name. She never became famous, but she was successful as far as I was concerned. She raised five kids who turned out to be honest and caring.
I really didn't get to know her as well as I wanted to. I spent a lot of time with her recently, because she wasn't well. I should've spent more time with her like that over the past 41 years. She gave me unconditional love.
This wonderful lady had emphysema, from over 50 years of smoking. I'm mad because she smoked, and I'm mad because I think maybe I could've tried harder to get her to stop. I don't know. It was rough to see her struggling, on oxygen 24 hours a day for the past six months.
I was with her early this morning, and told her I'd see her later in the day. You see, I had to get to work, I was already an hour late. She was doing better, she had a bit of a hard night.
I DID get to see her later. But she couldn't see me. She passed away 30 minutes after I left. Her name was Renee. Renee Shehab.
I miss my mom already.
|That's a fine tribute to your Mom Rick. I'm sorry to hear of her passing
She done good. You're the proof.
- Jay (your friend)
Sorry to hear of the loss of your mother, she sounds like a wonderful
Phil & Vicki Squibb
I am sorry to hear of your loss today. Very nice tribute to your Mom. I'll bet she was reading it over your shoulder when you were writing it.
Sounds like you did a good job, being there early this morning.
She will be in my prayers this week end.
Rick, it is hard I know. I lost my Mother about 15 years ago she had Lou Gerghig Diease. My Dad passed about 7 years ago and I know that you feel a loss. It will get better with time. I am sory for your loss of your mother and I pray that the Lord will bless you in this time of need. I will pray for you . God Bless you.
Words can't express it.
Rick, thank you for sharing, I ask my wife to come in to read your words and thoughts. We hurt with you.
Tomorrow we are getting my mom, and bring her here for weekend, she is 88 and is having a time of it.Thanks for reminding me of all she gave me.
Larry and Sandi Weaver
Having lost my mother and father, I know where you are. I send you my best wishes and prayers. God be with you.
A line that gives me comfort on losing someone dear comes from Kipling:
"So I'll meet him later on,
At the place where he is gone."
We weep, of course, for ourselves, for the things we should have said. For the love we should have expressed. For the fact that we no longer have a loved one.
If one believes, as most of us do, in a "better place, a land of milk and honey" then I suppose that joy for one's dear one should be logically mixed with the sense of loss, though it never seems that way, and only time heals.
All of one's friends would give comfort, and try to do so, but there is little they can do to shorten the process, or make it less painful, and only time suffices.
As men (there are a few ladies present, and they will most likely confirm) I doubt that we can understand the feelings of mothers for their sons. They tend not to get much disappointed in them, and not to notice much their shortfalls in expressions of love. As men, we are, by our very nature, all guilty to some degree.
Self-remonstration and anguish over what was not said, and should have been, are not necessary at all. For one can be assured that their mother remembered all the thoughtful things, and let them off the hook for the less than generous ones, by forgetting altogether. If she even noticed at all, that is.
Having spent most of one's early years with her, a man love's his mother for all of his life, with a special sort of love. The thing to remember is that she loved you even more, and that nearly anything you did was fine.
You have my heartfelt condolences, Rick.
So sorry to hear you lost your Mom. Thank you so much for sharing your feelings and some of the many beautiful things you have to remember about her.
May God give you His comfort.
Dorothy & Rocky
You'll recognize the following, but for those that haven'seen this, and hopefully for
* * THE MASTERS KEY * *
Life is a book, With Chapters Three;
The Past; the Present; and the Yet To Be,
The First has been read, And is laid away;
The Second we are reading Day by Day.
The Third and Last, of the Chapters Three,
Is Hidden from sight, Only God has the Key
~ Author unknown ~
Your wonderful mother has now read all three, and is with the Master. You and your family have my sincere condolences and are in my prayers.
John Dorsey CML
Charles said it better than we ever could have.God be with you and your family.
Steve & Mary Lynn Huff.
Man, Rick. It's hard to even come up with anything to say about that. I feel for you. Your post, as a tribute to her was great and it really got my attention. My condolences to you and yours.
Mate myself and Kim are thinking off you, God bless
Grantly and Kim
Sorry for your loss. May God be with you in this time of sorrow.
We are all with you in your time of need...
That was beautiful. It is obvious that she was too. It shows every day, in every communication that you make, that she did well by you. In your tribute, you have done well by her.
Most things happen when and how they happen for a grand purpose. We can only surmise about that purpose. Sometimes we never know what that purpose was.
Perhaps, in this case, the purpose was to set the mood of appreciation for what we have been blessed with, for all the rest of us that read what you wrote. Thank you for writing this. It makes me feel more deeply the true spirit of Mother's day. All I want to do right now is see my mom and give her a big hug. I will give her one for yours, too.
You have my sincere condolences on the passing of your mom.
Rick - I don't know what to say, I'll just sit with you quietly.
I'm sorry for your loss Rick. I lost my Dad but I'm lucky that I get to see my Mom every day. She keeps the shop running while I'm out.
Condolences from everyone at Accredited Lock. I hope your mom went easy, like I said last week.
That was a beautiful tribute you wrote to her. You know she gave you an 'A+' on that one.
I was sorry to hear your news. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
If there is anything I can do for you or if you just need to talk please
Rick and family.
It sounds like your mom was a great lady and I'm sure there's no words
that can lessen your sorrow of her passing. You are obviously very proud
of her as I'm sure she is of you.
Hopefully you can take some comfort in knowing she has gone to a better
place and has no pain or discomfort. I'm not very good with words when
it comes to things like this, but I wish the best for you and yours in this time of sadness.
Sorry to hear about your mom Rick :(
My mom is getting a 4X heart bypass soon......our state of the art health care system lets the patiant wait for weeks if they want to or not.....she fell and broke her leg a couple months ago too.
Sorry about your mom. It sounds like her last year or so wasn't good,